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3 Secrets to Maximizing Opportunities & Stepping Out of Our Own Way

“Laughing Hearts,” Audrye OmArt: Art That Opens the Heart, reminds us that we are laughing hearts on this Earth.

Moms and everyone, how many times have you/I/we said we want something, made the preparations, gotten ourselves there, done the internal and external work, then, when we’re there, what do we do?  Do we maximize every opportunity?  Do we allow ourselves to receive our good?  Do we sabotage ourselves?  Do we do less or allow less than whatever is possible?

To my absolute “horror,” despite how much work I have done and do on myself, still there can be occasions when I omit doing the obvious that could make such a difference for both other people and myself.  At this point, however, I take stock, do an internal interview, to seek the cause of this behavior.  There was a time I would pummel myself.

What about you?  Do you check yourself out when you realixe that you either made a mistake, omitted doing something that needed doing, did something haphazardly that required more attention, or in any other way behaved in any manner that had you feeling that you had been less than you are?

Pretty much most of us have.

Here are THREE SUPER SECRET TIPS to Maximize Opportunities and Step Out of Our Own Way, and Bring In Our Good!

1. LOVE YOURSELF.  Yes, even in the face of something you could have done better.  Even if you are feeling embarrassed.  Even if….    Stop blaming yourself!  Learn what sabotaging internal dialog (ID – remember? The Internal Tyrant!) had been chattering along either boisterously or whisperingly.    Hear this “junque” so we can behave better than any sabotaging behavior the ID may be pushing.  Are you noticing any old family patterns, or genetic karmic patterning?  Perhaps regarding relationships, arguing, money, forgetfulness, overtalking, invalidating, addictions?  Congratulate yourself; you have discovered treasure.  Now to enhance yourself and everyone else with it.

2.  TAKE CORRECTIVE ACTION.  This can be seeing the old pattern, shifting it, and forgiving yourself/ourselves.  Make that phone call.  Tell the truth in an honoring way to yourself and everyone else.  Take an action that will get you beneficial results.  Just about everything can be transformed.  It starts within.  Corrective action is, first and foremost, working on yourself.  I am doing second chakra work on myself to shift some ancient patterns that I came in with and that were inadvertently enhanced by my background.  Refuse to blame anyone else for your own stuff.  Be responsible, loving yourself all the while, clean/clear yourself, and take appropriate loving, effective, efficient action.

3.  SAY THANK YOU! Be grateful for this soul initiation.  You are growing! This is great!  Refrain from allowing a glitch on the journey to get or keep you down.  You are a Being of Light!  You are a Soul!  You are made of Creator Stuff!  Say thank you to yourself, others, God/dess for your new awareness and actions.  Pause, if need be.  Regroup.  Realign internally, and take gentle, powerful, authentic steps in both the inner and outer world.  We are all learning.  Yes, absolutely, pulsate with gratitude.

Moms, everyone, we are going to sometimes find ourselves in a thicket, sometimes of our own making, sometimes as part of a larger situation.  Learn!!!! Honor and love yourself and others!  Be truthful, with integrity and impeccability.  Take appropriate action!  Be grateful for this opportunity to evolve.  Enlightened beings know that in the third dimension, we are on a journey.

Many blessings to you, and may your journey be fabulous!!!

For excellent support, to release “junque,” and to be personally free, check out eventbrite.com/ReleaseFamilyKarma.com

Love,

Mama Heart                                                                                                                                         GoddessHeart

Audrye

TheMothersManual.com    1.888.757.3223    1.888.75PEACE   Audrye@TheMothersManual.com

Why Must You Know Your Internal Dialog & Genetic Karmic Patterning?

This beautiful Audrye OmArt is designed to open your energy.      What is your internal dialog saying right now?  Now?

What is this internal dialog?  The little critter, the chatterbox, Monkey Mind, Terrible Tyrant, Internal Terrorist, according to my friend, healer extraordinaire, Dr. Robert Pope, the almost-nonstop mind machine that says:  “Your’re too tall, too short, not smart enough, too old, too fat, too skinny, not good enough, yatatatatata.  We all have it.

This is very different from Divine Guidance, the usually soft loving Inner Voice that opens doors of perception and possibility to and for you, that encourages you/me/us to evolve.

Where does the Internal Dialog head nuisance come from?  Family comments, past lives, parallel existences, cultural conditioning, media, Reptilians, ancient fears, all can be contributors.  Our internal dialog can originate from any and all of these causes, plus plenty more.  Becasue this is in our head, we are responsible for it and how we are affected by it.

How does this play into Genetic Karmic Patterning?  What in the world is that, you may be asking, your ID going nonstop:  “I am so curious, I couldn’t care less, why am I reading this, I’m looking forward to a great bath, when’s the last time I made love?” can all be trumpeting within you.

Genetic Karmic Patterning, as explained to me by Source when I was writing THE MOTHER’S MANUAL, in partnership with Source, are those energetic, physical, emotional, mental and other patterns that can get passed down from one generation to another, both intentionally and unintentionally.  Genetic Karmic Patterning can be in the DNA as well as behavioral.  Some families seem to have affinities with addictions, anger, music, food, sorrow, success, failure, wealth, poverty, anything.

With me, the issues once were food, fear and finances.

Frequently, a soul before birth can choose a family for its incarnation both for the wonderful experience that soul will enjoy on the Earth, as well as for the initiatory lessons the soul will encounter in and with that family.  These challenges — as well as the contributions of the soul — are some of why the soul chose to be born.  The Earth, after all, among its various purposes and functions, is a School for Souls.  Yes, you/I/we definitely selected our families so we can evolve.

This is part of why your children selected you!

Once we learn the lessons, how do we transform this Genetic Karmic Patterning, so we’re free of it rather than being bound and imprisoned?  What about the droning ID?  Why would be benefit from this?  Why do our families and life on Earth benefit?

We benefit becasue we become free, able to actually know who and what we are, which is so much beyond the often ego-boung identities running around the Earth now.  Look at the global stage, and you can see egos running wild.  Look at the U.S. government right now.  Beings attached to ego, fear, control, domination, manipulation, racism, sexism.  These are all Ego Games often fueled by rampant internal dialog (ID) of a malicious sort, pushed further by possible negative Genetic Karmic Patterning.

We all have free will, and it is up to each and every one of us to use it, and consciously evolve ourselves!

When we free ourselves from the ID, or transform our relationship with it, or create a peaceful environment with the ID, and go beyond Generic Karmic Patterning, new talents and abilities spring up within us.  Inventiveness soars.  We live in the moment, while also taking stpes to create a valuable future.

How many people — including yourself — do you know who live passionate, authentic lives?  How many people actually have joy in being alive?  Even in the midst of chaos?  How many actually live their essential truth?

We are at a time, a nexus, of shift and change, within ourselves and in the external world.  We all get to choose our reality and can affect our energy vibrataion.  If we refrain from clearing limiting internal dialog, or allow hurtful family Genetic Karmic Pattrerning to run our lives, we make ourselves less.

I urge you, with love and star shine, to gently look within yourself to see where you can grok a more enlightened, joyous, beneficial way of living, whether something totally new to you or something you have been involved with quite a while.  Write this down. Now!  Say it to yourself.  Make an affirmation of it, even if you doubt you can achieve it.

Here are some examples:

“I allow myself to live a life of passion, peace, prosperity.  People love to hear what I have to say.  I speak truth with love.  I am a peace and prosperity magnet.”

This is a taste, a tidbit, of the internal dialog and Genertic Karmic Patterning.  If you choose to learn more, enhance your energy and possibility, please contact me.

Now, get quiet.  Take this time for YOU!!!!  Breathe.   Breathe into your heart.  Hold.  Gently exhale.  Breathe Golden White Sparkling Light into your heart.  Hold.  Gently release.  What is your heart feeling?  What is the loving Guidance Voice, very different from the internal dialog, saying?  Who are you when you listen to the Guidance and follow it?  What can you bring to your family and the world?

 

Love and Blessings,

MamaSource

Audrye

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Healing 3 Types of “Monster” Moms or “Poisonous” Parents

What can a mom or dad do to earn being called a “monster” or “poisonous”?

 

Let’s look at Seven Types of “Monster” Moms or “Poisonous” Parents

 

1.  The Bully Mom or Dad

This is the parent, who, even with the best of intentions, forces her or his child to do what s/he wants exactly in that moment.  “Eat your food now!!!! Everyone is waiting for you to finish!!! You are holding up everyone being ready to leave for the movies!!!”  Any of this said with a threatening tone to a child in a high chair or to a toddler, even if Mom or Dad is on her or his seeming last nerve, can absolutely be termed a bully parent.

 

Will the child comply?

 

At some point, yes, so the parent can justify her or his behavior, with the proverbial, “See?  It worked!  Now my daughter (or son) is behaving nicely.  I was right to do what I did.”

 

A better approach is to find out why the child is resisting or refusing to do what is requested.  Also, for Mom or Dad to examine their request, determining if the request is required to be completed at that very second, if there’s another way to speak to the child, if there’s something going on within the child that needs to be addressed.  None of us operate solely on the surface.  Babies, toddlers, children operate on many levels, including when they are preverbal.

 

2.   The “Ridiculing” Mom or Dad

 

“You are being ridiculous wearing that outfit.  You look like an idiot!” says a seemingly well-meaning parent, in her or his zeal to have their offspring look good, in their eyes, and what the parent takes to the eyes of their friends, workers, neighbors, society.

 

“Everyone is able to run at this age.  Why are you so slow?  Are you just stupid?” jeers another parent to her/his child, in the parent’s effort to get his/her child up to speed, in the parent’s world overview.

This type of behavior absolutely undermines the child’s sense of self, as well as invalidates the child’s progress.  Yes, we can all feel impatient with ourselves, our children, society, anything.  This is less than no justification to mock or ridicule a child.  This can also be seen as an aspect of the bullying parent.

 

If you find yourself doing any of this — and the best of parent can slip sometimes — immediately rectify it.  Apologize to your child for your words, attitude and behavior.  Let your child know you love him/her, and that you, too, are constantly learning.  Then find a more enlightened way to express what needs to be done.  If you need help, read www.TheMothersManual.com or attend the Enlightened Mom Teleseminar series and Enlightened Mom Coaching Program.

3.  The “Impossible-to-Please” Mom or Dad

I will take this right out of my own life.  When I was a child, I earned report-card grades in the 90s in all my subjects.  My mom would see this, and, though she said, “Good work,” she then added, “Why don’t you get higher?  Is this the best you can do?”  This was said in less than an approving, loving voice.

 

This may have stimulated another kind of child, encouraging her or him to work harder.  For me, however, I felt that my mom would never be satisfied with what I did.   I needed some acknowledgment and validation.  What happened was that as I got older, I felt my mom had no concept of what I did, what it tood for me to do any of what I did, and that she had no sense of how to actually encourage.

 

Of course, this stemmed from her upbringing where she was belittled and made to feel less-than from her mom.  She never “worked on” this, and continued this behavior with her children, thinking that she was doing a great job.

 

So you know, before my mom left the Earth, she and I had more than made up, forgiven ourselves and one another for our sometimes clashing behavior.  I love her and treasure her.  That little Scorpio Dragon was a great “adversary” who taught me how to deal with challenging people.

 

Any of us can fall into these three categories.  Any of us can still be feeling the effects of these and other categories of “Monster” Mom or “Poisonous Parent.”   If you would like more tips on how to heal from what you experienced from your Mom, and to avoid perpetuating this pattern, contact me at 1 888.757.3223 or 1 888.75 PEACE.  Also, www.TheMothersManual.com.

 

To have peace on the planet, we start at home, within ourselves and our families.

 

Many Bessings & Love,

 

MamaHeart

Audrye

 

Why Do Some Moms Bully and Push Their Kids Too Much?

     I just read about one of the “reality show” moms pushing her six-year-young daughter to practice her dancing until this child cried in utter exhaustion and overwhelm. 

    Why do some moms do this?

    This is poor mothering.  Is it the mom who wants to succeed in whatever she is shoving her child to excel at?  Usually, yes, absolutely. 

    Often the mom — or dad — who unceasingly and uncaringly rides her child beyond the child’s capacity, is someone who lacks love for herself.  Often, this kind of mom is feeling deficient in some area.  Yes, the mom may say she wants the best for her child, that no one supported her (the mom) so she (the mom) is being supportive of her child.  This is a smokescreen for callousness.

   It is vital that we moms encourage our children.  It is imperative that we moms recognize the talents, abilities, tendencies of our children, and empower our children to realize the fruition of their gifts.  As well, as good moms, we also help our children with their challenges. 

    To work a child — or anyone — till that child is exhausted and spent physically and emotionally is both physical and emotional abuse. 

    Whether on a reality show or in “real” life, this is obvious.

    Yes, every person has her or his own breaking point, and mom has to be astute enough to avoid confusing true encouragement with abusive bullying.

    When mom, or the “star” of a reality show, or anyone else is the bully, we have to call it what it is.  Child abuse.  Bullying.   Disparaging a small one so the adult “looks good.”  In actuality, the adult, the ostensible grown-up, actually looks pathetic, forceful, manipulative, dominating, cruel, unfeeling, and a host more.

     This differs greatly from mom or a teacher being lax, careless, lazy, overly permissive. 

     Teaching a child internal discipline so the child innately looks to excel is what’s needed.  This is better accomplished by encouragement, discussion of what can be done better, accountability, love.  Seemingly torturing a child in the name of love or encouragement is a mega lie to good parenting.

     This confusion is part of what leads to emotional chaos in a person’s life.  Also, deep within herself, a mom knows when she has pushed her child too much.  If the mom is unaware of this, this mom needs professional counseling. 

      All of us benefit from transformational, evolutionary, energy, psychological work.  To avoid getting this is both foolish and dangerous.

     Be a loving, encouraging, creative, enlightened mom, causing evolved kids.  Require the best your child can give.  Reward your child for every step she or he takes.  Give them challenges, some of which are within their grasp, some of which are a true reach.  Allow your child to know success and “failure,” meaning not quite making the mark.  We all have to know how to deal with this.  This way the child learns that she or he can “fold,” and then pick her (or him) self up and go again.

     These are vital life lessons.  Everyone benefits from learning them.  It is ongoing.

    Have a blessed New Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love,

Audrye
MamaHeart

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