“I will NEVER do this to my children!!!” Did you ever say that to you while you were growing up,? Were you convinced that you would totally refrain from doing any of the awful stuff foisted upon you by your mom? Even if you absolutely loved and love your mother — as pretty much all of us do — what about those times when your mom’s issues got the better of her, and she used the “look,” or smacked you, or belittled you, or had that razor voice, or beat you, or locked you in a closet, or whatever it was for you?
Have you ever discovered yourself doing almost exactly to your child or children what you swore you would never repeat from your mom’s repertoire? OMG, what about her words or attitudes popping out of your mouth, and you wonder, ‘Where did THAT come from?”
The good, the bad and the shocking truth of the effect out moms have on our lives is that unless we really work on, in and with ourselves, despite how brilliant, how aware, how loving we are, whether we prefer to or not, we almost always WILL repeat some of the patterns we experienced with our moms. This can be fabulous, and it can be atrocious.
What to do about this? We all know that our words, our belief systems, our internal dialog (ID) effect our lives, and can bring to fruition our deepest dreams and our most nasty nightmares. So, we work on our thoughts, saying, “delete, delete, delete” to the disparaging internal thoughts we may have.
I have been working on myself since I’m a young girl. Yes, I was born with a higher consciousness from the start. This is part of being a mystic intuitive. Nonetheless, to my utter horror, I repeated some of the worst things I experienced with my mom. Did I apologize? You bet!!!! Have I done internal work, energy work, spiritual work, mental work, emotional work? For sure. I am ever honing that ID (internal dialog) so I can live as the best possibility of my authentuc self. My daughter and I have a very real relationship, love each other tremendously, and both work on it, too.
So many women — and men — have come to me, wondering why they can devolve into feeling like a little unworthy kid when speaking with their respective moms. “Why can’t I be the accomplished talented adult I am when I’m with her, or someone who reminds me of her? “What can I do about this, so we both are living in the here and now?” (rather than the there and then)
To have peace in the world, we start with ourselves. We are the one. Each and ever one of us. We start in Spirit, the in-between, then the womb. To clear ourselves, make peace with the ID and our own energetic “implants” takes work. It’s more than affirmations, as important affirmations are.
If we refrain from doing this, what do we have? We have what we have now. Who wants to continue with the world’s people behaving in the tumultuous self-sabatoging ways that can come to any and all of us? Yes, some of us more than other, definitely.
To answer this call, I created my LIKE MOTHER, LIKE DAUGHTER – Really? teleseminar on Tuesday, Sept 24th, 7-8 pm EDT $11 for the live experiential event. Registrataion permits you to listen to the Teleseminar at any time afterward if you are unable to attend Tuesday evening. There are ongoing opportunities also.
I am impulsed — even when I want to just hide — to do this. Source has called on me, since I was a little girl, to be and do what I am here to do to create transformation, peace, consciousness upliftment, women’s empowerment-enlightenment-rights-responsibilities.
I invite you to check this out. http://www.TheMothersManual.com/Empowered-Mom-Teleseminar-1/
We are all in this together. What kind of world would we be living in if we were all at peace inside with our mothers? If we can stay centered and present in the NOW when we’re with her? Even if she is in Spirit, how would we love to be free?
We can take our steps to create this world. It’s up to us, and this is one of the ways.
Have an absolutely blessed day!!!!!!!
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A good mother knows when to ask for support. This is before any crisis occurs. Everyone has to know when she (or he) has taken on more than she can handle. We all get signals within us, whether a feeling of dizziness, a stomachache, lack of sleep, overscheduled days, the Inner Guidance (different from the chattering internal dialog) or what-have-you.
Good moms want the best for their children. In the case of the Newtown, CT, tragedy, there were signals throughout this young man’s life that he needed more help than his mother could give.
Was it appropriate that the young man’s brother was “supposed to” be his brother’s caretaker? Only up to a point. All persons have to have the opportunity and possibility of living their lives, especially as a youngster. All siblings are meant to help one another, definitely. This is different from one sibling being responsible for another one, especially if the one needing help has a mental, physical, emotional or spiritual dysfunction. Dysfunctionality requires expert open-hearted competent help.
When individuals or a group are always silent, refusing to express their feelings, needs, opinions, desires or anything germane to who they are, this is generally a signal that something is askew. Often, this lack of response signals that energy is building up, as in a pressure cooker. Without a proper means of release, this energy can — and often may — explode.
Just as overly angry, aggressive, resentful, dominating, manipulative people have to learn how to better manage their emotions and deal with the underpinnings of what is truly going on within them, so, too, do people who hide everything inside without sharing anything anywhere with anyone.
It is tragic that this young man, likely with his mom’s best intentions, did not get the help he needed.
To have him living in a household rife with guns, plus bringing him to a shooting range, was incredibly foolish. Perhaps target shooting was his mom’s way to release her own stress. Perhaps she thought target shooting gave her some control over a tenuous challenging home situation. If these were some of her motivations, she was also acting out, rather than doing her internal work.
Both people needed help.
Neither got what they needed.
This is something for all of us to look at within ourselves, our families, our lives.
Be sure you get the support you need. Ask. Ask. Ask. Find people who are competent to help you. Be willing to give back. Create a barter. Find what you can give or share that will benefit the other person or someone else. Life is an exchange of energy.
Also, Rather than taking on everything possible, instead take on a moderate amount of “stuff” to do in your life. Do what you have to do as well and completely as you can.
The energy of the times is that of flux, transformation, evolution, where each and every one of us is called up to be responsible for our own lives, while also being supportive of one another’s growth.
Be wise in your choices.
Much love in the New Year!!!!
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