Get Adobe Flash player

conscious parenting

LIKE MOTHER, LIKE DAUGHTER – Really? Want Love & Peace?

“I will NEVER do this to my children!!!” Did you ever say that to you while you were growing up,?  Were you convinced that you would totally refrain from doing any of the awful stuff foisted upon you by your mom?  Even if you absolutely loved and love your mother — as pretty much all of us do — what about those times when your mom’s issues got the better of her, and she used the “look,” or smacked you, or belittled you, or had that razor voice, or beat you, or locked you in a closet, or whatever it was for you?

Have you ever discovered yourself doing almost exactly to your child or children what you swore you would never repeat from your mom’s repertoire?  OMG, what about her words or attitudes popping out of your mouth, and you wonder, ‘Where did THAT come from?”

The good, the bad and the shocking truth of the effect out moms have on our lives is that unless we really work on, in and with ourselves, despite how brilliant, how aware, how loving we are, whether we prefer to or not, we almost always WILL repeat some of the patterns we experienced with our moms.  This can be fabulous, and it can be atrocious.

What to do about this?  We all know that our words, our belief systems, our internal dialog (ID) effect our lives, and can bring to fruition our deepest dreams and our most nasty nightmares.  So, we work on our thoughts, saying, “delete, delete, delete” to the disparaging internal thoughts we may have.

I have been working on myself since I’m a young girl.  Yes, I was born with a higher consciousness from the start.  This is part of being a mystic intuitive.  Nonetheless, to my utter horror, I repeated some of the worst things I experienced with my mom.  Did I apologize?  You bet!!!!  Have I done internal work, energy work, spiritual work, mental work, emotional work?  For sure.   I am ever honing that ID (internal dialog) so I can live as the best possibility of my authentuc self.  My daughter and I have a very real relationship, love each other tremendously, and both work on it, too.

So many women — and men — have come to me, wondering why they can devolve into feeling like a little unworthy kid when speaking with their respective moms.  “Why can’t I be the accomplished talented adult I am when I’m with her, or someone who reminds me of her?  “What can I do about this, so we both are living in the here and now?” (rather than the there and then)

To have peace in the world, we start with ourselves.  We are the one.  Each and ever one of us.  We start in Spirit, the in-between, then the womb.  To clear ourselves, make peace with the ID and our own energetic “implants” takes work.  It’s more than affirmations, as important affirmations are.

If we refrain from doing this, what do we have?  We have what we have now.  Who wants to continue with the world’s people behaving in the tumultuous self-sabatoging ways that can come to any and all of us?  Yes, some of us more than other, definitely.

To answer this call, I created my LIKE MOTHER, LIKE DAUGHTER – Really? teleseminar on Tuesday, Sept 24th, 7-8 pm EDT  $11  for the live experiential event.  Registrataion permits you to listen to the Teleseminar at any time afterward if you are unable to attend Tuesday evening.  There are ongoing opportunities also.

I am impulsed — even when I want to just hide — to do this.  Source has called on me, since I was a little girl, to be and do what I am here to do to create transformation, peace, consciousness upliftment, women’s empowerment-enlightenment-rights-responsibilities.

I invite you to check this out.  http://www.TheMothersManual.com/Empowered-Mom-Teleseminar-1/

We are all in this together.  What kind of world would we be living in if we were all at peace inside with our mothers?  If we can stay centered and present in the NOW when we’re with her?  Even if she is in Spirit, how would we love to be free?

We can take our steps to create this world.  It’s up to us, and this is one of the ways.

Have an absolutely blessed day!!!!!!!

Love,

MamaHeart

Audrye

www.TheMothersManual.com

1 888 757 3223, 1 888 75 PEACE

Healing 3 Types of “Monster” Moms or “Poisonous” Parents

What can a mom or dad do to earn being called a “monster” or “poisonous”?

 

Let’s look at Seven Types of “Monster” Moms or “Poisonous” Parents

 

1.  The Bully Mom or Dad

This is the parent, who, even with the best of intentions, forces her or his child to do what s/he wants exactly in that moment.  “Eat your food now!!!! Everyone is waiting for you to finish!!! You are holding up everyone being ready to leave for the movies!!!”  Any of this said with a threatening tone to a child in a high chair or to a toddler, even if Mom or Dad is on her or his seeming last nerve, can absolutely be termed a bully parent.

 

Will the child comply?

 

At some point, yes, so the parent can justify her or his behavior, with the proverbial, “See?  It worked!  Now my daughter (or son) is behaving nicely.  I was right to do what I did.”

 

A better approach is to find out why the child is resisting or refusing to do what is requested.  Also, for Mom or Dad to examine their request, determining if the request is required to be completed at that very second, if there’s another way to speak to the child, if there’s something going on within the child that needs to be addressed.  None of us operate solely on the surface.  Babies, toddlers, children operate on many levels, including when they are preverbal.

 

2.   The “Ridiculing” Mom or Dad

 

“You are being ridiculous wearing that outfit.  You look like an idiot!” says a seemingly well-meaning parent, in her or his zeal to have their offspring look good, in their eyes, and what the parent takes to the eyes of their friends, workers, neighbors, society.

 

“Everyone is able to run at this age.  Why are you so slow?  Are you just stupid?” jeers another parent to her/his child, in the parent’s effort to get his/her child up to speed, in the parent’s world overview.

This type of behavior absolutely undermines the child’s sense of self, as well as invalidates the child’s progress.  Yes, we can all feel impatient with ourselves, our children, society, anything.  This is less than no justification to mock or ridicule a child.  This can also be seen as an aspect of the bullying parent.

 

If you find yourself doing any of this — and the best of parent can slip sometimes — immediately rectify it.  Apologize to your child for your words, attitude and behavior.  Let your child know you love him/her, and that you, too, are constantly learning.  Then find a more enlightened way to express what needs to be done.  If you need help, read www.TheMothersManual.com or attend the Enlightened Mom Teleseminar series and Enlightened Mom Coaching Program.

3.  The “Impossible-to-Please” Mom or Dad

I will take this right out of my own life.  When I was a child, I earned report-card grades in the 90s in all my subjects.  My mom would see this, and, though she said, “Good work,” she then added, “Why don’t you get higher?  Is this the best you can do?”  This was said in less than an approving, loving voice.

 

This may have stimulated another kind of child, encouraging her or him to work harder.  For me, however, I felt that my mom would never be satisfied with what I did.   I needed some acknowledgment and validation.  What happened was that as I got older, I felt my mom had no concept of what I did, what it tood for me to do any of what I did, and that she had no sense of how to actually encourage.

 

Of course, this stemmed from her upbringing where she was belittled and made to feel less-than from her mom.  She never “worked on” this, and continued this behavior with her children, thinking that she was doing a great job.

 

So you know, before my mom left the Earth, she and I had more than made up, forgiven ourselves and one another for our sometimes clashing behavior.  I love her and treasure her.  That little Scorpio Dragon was a great “adversary” who taught me how to deal with challenging people.

 

Any of us can fall into these three categories.  Any of us can still be feeling the effects of these and other categories of “Monster” Mom or “Poisonous Parent.”   If you would like more tips on how to heal from what you experienced from your Mom, and to avoid perpetuating this pattern, contact me at 1 888.757.3223 or 1 888.75 PEACE.  Also, www.TheMothersManual.com.

 

To have peace on the planet, we start at home, within ourselves and our families.

 

Many Bessings & Love,

 

MamaHeart

Audrye

 

Mom Freedoms, Considerations, Responsibilities

So much has been in the media about moms lately.  Is it okay to breastfeed in public without a coverup?  When is it good to discuss sex and sexuality with your child or children?  How many children is a good amount?

There is no completely “right” answer for everyone or for anyone all the time.

Let’s look at the queries above.  Is it okay to breastfeed in public without a coverup?  Actually, insofar as I know, it’s totally legal to do so.  Moms are within their/our rights to breastfeed publically.  Is this necessarily a good idea without a coverup in all circumstances?  I say, no, as we do have to take into account mainstream’s attitudes.  I certainly recomment having a light appropriate coverup.  This would be completely appropriate in every kind of circumstance I can currently imagine.

Yes, I know; some women feel a coverup is an infrigement on our freedom and rights.  We all, however, live in a society, and, whether we choose it or not, we do have to take into account others’ feelings.  A simple coverup is sufficient.  Yes, I know also that too many people seem to be more comfortable with guns than breastfeeding, and this is an issue we are in process of shifting.

Depending on where you are, I suggest carrying a coverup with you.  This way, everyone is comfortable, including Mom and Baby, the two most important persons here.

MamaHeart — me! — will discuss sexuality and appropriate amount of children in future posts.

These posts will be coming at minimum once a week.  I now have a new Web Woman, and I’m learning a new way to post these blogs.

What are your feelings?  Opinions?  Feedback?  Why?  What have you noticed?

Did you know that I am now doing Enlightened Mom Teleseminars?  If you are interested, certainly contact me.  You can always call 1 888 757 3223 or 1 888 75 PEACE.

I am also sending out Life Tips.  If you would like to receive these, also contact me.

Please let me know what topics in any area you would like to see here.

Thank you and have a blessed day.

Blessings,

Audrye

MamaSource

www.TheMothersManual.com

www.Audrye.org

 

 

Why Do Some Moms Bully and Push Their Kids Too Much?

     I just read about one of the “reality show” moms pushing her six-year-young daughter to practice her dancing until this child cried in utter exhaustion and overwhelm. 

    Why do some moms do this?

    This is poor mothering.  Is it the mom who wants to succeed in whatever she is shoving her child to excel at?  Usually, yes, absolutely. 

    Often the mom — or dad — who unceasingly and uncaringly rides her child beyond the child’s capacity, is someone who lacks love for herself.  Often, this kind of mom is feeling deficient in some area.  Yes, the mom may say she wants the best for her child, that no one supported her (the mom) so she (the mom) is being supportive of her child.  This is a smokescreen for callousness.

   It is vital that we moms encourage our children.  It is imperative that we moms recognize the talents, abilities, tendencies of our children, and empower our children to realize the fruition of their gifts.  As well, as good moms, we also help our children with their challenges. 

    To work a child — or anyone — till that child is exhausted and spent physically and emotionally is both physical and emotional abuse. 

    Whether on a reality show or in “real” life, this is obvious.

    Yes, every person has her or his own breaking point, and mom has to be astute enough to avoid confusing true encouragement with abusive bullying.

    When mom, or the “star” of a reality show, or anyone else is the bully, we have to call it what it is.  Child abuse.  Bullying.   Disparaging a small one so the adult “looks good.”  In actuality, the adult, the ostensible grown-up, actually looks pathetic, forceful, manipulative, dominating, cruel, unfeeling, and a host more.

     This differs greatly from mom or a teacher being lax, careless, lazy, overly permissive. 

     Teaching a child internal discipline so the child innately looks to excel is what’s needed.  This is better accomplished by encouragement, discussion of what can be done better, accountability, love.  Seemingly torturing a child in the name of love or encouragement is a mega lie to good parenting.

     This confusion is part of what leads to emotional chaos in a person’s life.  Also, deep within herself, a mom knows when she has pushed her child too much.  If the mom is unaware of this, this mom needs professional counseling. 

      All of us benefit from transformational, evolutionary, energy, psychological work.  To avoid getting this is both foolish and dangerous.

     Be a loving, encouraging, creative, enlightened mom, causing evolved kids.  Require the best your child can give.  Reward your child for every step she or he takes.  Give them challenges, some of which are within their grasp, some of which are a true reach.  Allow your child to know success and “failure,” meaning not quite making the mark.  We all have to know how to deal with this.  This way the child learns that she or he can “fold,” and then pick her (or him) self up and go again.

     These are vital life lessons.  Everyone benefits from learning them.  It is ongoing.

    Have a blessed New Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love,

Audrye
MamaHeart

Transformation Catalyst, Author, Clairvoyant Consultant, Spiritual Therapist, Healer, Health & Wellness Coach, Enagic Kangen (R) Water Distributor, BlogTalkShow Host, Artist, and, definitely, Mom and Grammie

www.TheMothersManual.com (GET the BIG BOOK on SPECIAL till 1.1.13 on Kindle and Nook)
www.Audrye.org
www.BlogTalkRadio.com/GoddessHeartNetwork
www.GoddessHeartWater.com
www.Achee.org

1 888 757 3223   1 888 75 PEACE

www.facebook.com/Audrye
www.Facebook.com/TheMothersManual

   

www.TheMothersManual.com
www.GoddessHeart.org
www.AudryeNow.tv
www.Achee.org
www.AudryeOmArt.com
www.twitter.com/Audrye22
www.facebook.com/Audrye
www.myspace.com/Audrye22
www.linkedin.com/in/Audrye
www.ecademy.com/user/AudryeArbe
www.ecademy.com/blog/AudryeArbe
www.ConsciousLivingSpace.com/profile/Audrye
Also, WeTheWorld, eWomanPower, more

GoddessHeart Speaks!

FREE

SIGN UP Today and receive The Mothers Manual SAMPLER!!!

By signing up you will also be subscribed to

GoddessHeart Speaks

our monthly newsletter for Enlightened Moms and Evolved Kids!

* Email
First Name
Last Name
* = Required Field

The Mother's Manual Sampler
Follow My Work!
Follow Me and See
What Other Projects
I Am Up To!



Protective Prayer

Find Us On Facebook

Follow me on Twitter

"Biblical Marriage Not Defined Simply As One Man, One Woman: Iowa Religious Scholars' Op-Ed http://t.co/tubMcGZVby via @huffpostgay Good read"