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Why Must You Know Your Internal Dialog & Genetic Karmic Patterning?

This beautiful Audrye OmArt is designed to open your energy.      What is your internal dialog saying right now?  Now?

What is this internal dialog?  The little critter, the chatterbox, Monkey Mind, Terrible Tyrant, Internal Terrorist, according to my friend, healer extraordinaire, Dr. Robert Pope, the almost-nonstop mind machine that says:  “Your’re too tall, too short, not smart enough, too old, too fat, too skinny, not good enough, yatatatatata.  We all have it.

This is very different from Divine Guidance, the usually soft loving Inner Voice that opens doors of perception and possibility to and for you, that encourages you/me/us to evolve.

Where does the Internal Dialog head nuisance come from?  Family comments, past lives, parallel existences, cultural conditioning, media, Reptilians, ancient fears, all can be contributors.  Our internal dialog can originate from any and all of these causes, plus plenty more.  Becasue this is in our head, we are responsible for it and how we are affected by it.

How does this play into Genetic Karmic Patterning?  What in the world is that, you may be asking, your ID going nonstop:  “I am so curious, I couldn’t care less, why am I reading this, I’m looking forward to a great bath, when’s the last time I made love?” can all be trumpeting within you.

Genetic Karmic Patterning, as explained to me by Source when I was writing THE MOTHER’S MANUAL, in partnership with Source, are those energetic, physical, emotional, mental and other patterns that can get passed down from one generation to another, both intentionally and unintentionally.  Genetic Karmic Patterning can be in the DNA as well as behavioral.  Some families seem to have affinities with addictions, anger, music, food, sorrow, success, failure, wealth, poverty, anything.

With me, the issues once were food, fear and finances.

Frequently, a soul before birth can choose a family for its incarnation both for the wonderful experience that soul will enjoy on the Earth, as well as for the initiatory lessons the soul will encounter in and with that family.  These challenges — as well as the contributions of the soul — are some of why the soul chose to be born.  The Earth, after all, among its various purposes and functions, is a School for Souls.  Yes, you/I/we definitely selected our families so we can evolve.

This is part of why your children selected you!

Once we learn the lessons, how do we transform this Genetic Karmic Patterning, so we’re free of it rather than being bound and imprisoned?  What about the droning ID?  Why would be benefit from this?  Why do our families and life on Earth benefit?

We benefit becasue we become free, able to actually know who and what we are, which is so much beyond the often ego-boung identities running around the Earth now.  Look at the global stage, and you can see egos running wild.  Look at the U.S. government right now.  Beings attached to ego, fear, control, domination, manipulation, racism, sexism.  These are all Ego Games often fueled by rampant internal dialog (ID) of a malicious sort, pushed further by possible negative Genetic Karmic Patterning.

We all have free will, and it is up to each and every one of us to use it, and consciously evolve ourselves!

When we free ourselves from the ID, or transform our relationship with it, or create a peaceful environment with the ID, and go beyond Generic Karmic Patterning, new talents and abilities spring up within us.  Inventiveness soars.  We live in the moment, while also taking stpes to create a valuable future.

How many people — including yourself — do you know who live passionate, authentic lives?  How many people actually have joy in being alive?  Even in the midst of chaos?  How many actually live their essential truth?

We are at a time, a nexus, of shift and change, within ourselves and in the external world.  We all get to choose our reality and can affect our energy vibrataion.  If we refrain from clearing limiting internal dialog, or allow hurtful family Genetic Karmic Pattrerning to run our lives, we make ourselves less.

I urge you, with love and star shine, to gently look within yourself to see where you can grok a more enlightened, joyous, beneficial way of living, whether something totally new to you or something you have been involved with quite a while.  Write this down. Now!  Say it to yourself.  Make an affirmation of it, even if you doubt you can achieve it.

Here are some examples:

“I allow myself to live a life of passion, peace, prosperity.  People love to hear what I have to say.  I speak truth with love.  I am a peace and prosperity magnet.”

This is a taste, a tidbit, of the internal dialog and Genertic Karmic Patterning.  If you choose to learn more, enhance your energy and possibility, please contact me.

Now, get quiet.  Take this time for YOU!!!!  Breathe.   Breathe into your heart.  Hold.  Gently exhale.  Breathe Golden White Sparkling Light into your heart.  Hold.  Gently release.  What is your heart feeling?  What is the loving Guidance Voice, very different from the internal dialog, saying?  Who are you when you listen to the Guidance and follow it?  What can you bring to your family and the world?

 

Love and Blessings,

MamaSource

Audrye

www.TheMothersManual.com   Audrye@TheMothersManual.com

1.888.757.3223   or 1.888.75 PEACE

 

Balanced Discipline 2 – 8 Tips from THE MOTHER’S MANUAL

    Everyone has her/his culture, upbringing, “genetic karmic” conditioning.  Some of these ideas may be fabulous, while others are repressive, confining, stultifying.

Because Source/the Presence was with me as I/we brought forth THE MOTHER’S MANUAL, A SPIRITUAL AND PRACTICAL GUIDE TO CHILD REARING AND MOTHERHOOD, (www.TheMothersManual.com ), I’m quoting directly from the book on Discipline.

    “Avoid hitting your child. Hitting and loving are different. The

phrase ‘this hurts me more than it hurts you’ from a parent’s mouth

when the parent is administering a spanking, beating or whooping

rings false to every child who has ever heard it. Hitting teaches that

might makes right. Smacking teaches bullying. Saying ‘because I

say so, that’s why,/ though a common-enough phrase that can slip

past many mothers’ mouths, is also an ineffective tool for teaching

and discipline. If you yourself do not know why you are saying it

or having your child do it, learn, so you can explain it to your child

in a sensible understandable manner. Children are actually smart

and often understand way more than adults give the child credit for.

 

“Reserve commands for emergencies.

 

“When you develop trust with your child, this little person, especially

when young, often desires to do what you say. Children like

to please. They like to fit into a loving situation. This adaptability

is built into them, as surely as the innate ability to crawl, walk and

evolve. Definitely, there are times when your child must do as you say

in that exact moment without the child understanding why. It may

be a matter of saving her life. You can use special language that you

set up in advance with your child so she knows when and if these

times occur. Be sure to respect this and use it sparingly and judiciously.

 

“These are the times when commands can be used wisely.

 

“If you were brought up with corporeal punishment, being hit,

and you think hitting is the only way or the most effective way to

discipline or teach respect to your child, please think again. Smacking,

hitting and/or beating are a very limited repertoire of choices,

often rendering the mother ineffective in instilling positive methods

of discipline in her child. Citing alleged Biblical ‘spare the rod and

spoil the child’ is a way to justify and rationalize violence to one’s

child.

 

“Look into alternatives.

 

“1. Learn when you are reaching your

limit of patience.

 

“2.  Have several people as alternate child caregivers

for just such times.

 

“3.  Have quiet activities your child can enjoy

and benefit from.

 

“4.  Find classes for wee ones, so you have pauses in

mothering.

 

“5.  Take classes yourself in positive methods of peaceful

discipline.

 

“6. Develop patience, ingenuity, clarity, coping skills, creativity

within yourself.

 

” 7. Meditate.

 

” 8.  Develop your own internal discipline

with love, and your child will also energetically emulate you.”

 

There is also the Reward method.  Set up a chart with chores and the like, and when the child performs them, give the child a star.  When the child refuses to do his agreed-upon responsibilities, the child can get a different mark.  Privileges can be awarded or taken away based on this chart.

 

Never ever humiliate your child, whether alone or in the midst of people.  Always respect yourself and your child as Beings of Light.  Take your child away from a group, and speak to her about inappropriate behavior.  When tihis manner of dealing with your child is extablished early on, your child will come to expect it.  This doesn’t mean she will like it, just that she will refrain from balking.  The alternative would be to have that private conversation in the midst of people, which would be contrary to his liking.

Work out signals, raising eyebrows, a “look,” a hand movement so your child knows when she is moving into the inappropriate zone.  As mom, catch stuff in the early stages, rather than waiting for a blow-up.  The brain gets into a loop, so by the time behavior gets into the hysterical screaming fit phase, often the child is unable to stop, nor, sometimes, can the adult.

Give childrfen alternate modes of behavior.  Teach them how  to recognize when they, themselves, are feeling upset, worried, angry, sad, resentful, and the like, so the child can self-correct rather than go into blow-up mode without understanding what’s going on inside them.  If you, Mom, are out of touch with your own feelings, this is the perfect time for you to learn.

We are at a nexus in human consciousness upliftment.  Despite some of the absolute insanity we see occuring in our lives, our families, politics, the world, we are more enlightened than that.  We are the arbiters of our lives, with our connection to Source/the Presence within ourselves and everywhere.  Take this opportunity to evolve yourself.  It’s the greatest game in town.

What are you ideas?  Techniques?  How do you create peaceful conflict resolution in yourself?  Your family?  The world?

 

Be blessed!!!!

 

Love,

MamaHeart

Audrye

www.TheMothersManual.com

www.ReleaseFamilyKarma.Eventbrite.com

1.888.757.3223 or 1.888.75 PEACE

Balanced Discipline 1 – Is There Such a Thing?

What’s the most effective and peaceful method to discipline children?  There seem to be parents who still hold with the “spoil the rod, spoil the child” philosophy, happily hitting, beating and smacking their child, justifying this behavior by quoting the Bible.  On the other opposite end, there are parents who refrain from having any level of accountability or responsibility requirement for their children, nor do some of these parents hold their children to any decent standards of behavior.

Both of these polarities can have dire consequences for both the children and parents, as well as the world.  We all have to be accountable for our thoughts, language, behavior, and the consequences of our actions or inactions.  Nobody gets a free ride, as we are all here to evolve.

Clearly, every child is different, requiring unique approaches.  Also, every child needs parental attention, love, care, and understanding.  When parents refuse to deal with their kids, hoping that somehow, magically, their kids will “do the right thing,” and that no one should ever tell them (the parents) anything negative about their children, these very parents are living in a fantasy.

Moms, Dads, ask people who see your kids in settings where you are absent — as in school, other people’s homes, the playground, sports, after-school programs — how your children behave, and how these other people perceive your children.  Regularly, speak with your child about how life is going for them.  Refuse to accept a grunt as an answer.

Hitting, beating, smacking, any corporeal punishment teaches that might makes right, that physical violence is acceptable under certain circumstances, that bullying has a place.  Being hit is demeaning.  Yes, some kids may stop their inappropriate behavior, yet what has that child learned?  Has that child learned why their behavior had been objectionable?  Has the child learned how to self regulate?  Does the child maintain self respect?

Being hit harms a child’s sense of self, has the child think less of her or him self.  When a parent, supposedly a person who loves a child, then physically hurts that child, the child can get an internally twisted idea of live, even if the child has the intellectual and emotional capacity to distinguish punishment from loving actions.

Start early, when your child is a toddler.  TALK to your child.  Explain why certain behavior is acceptable, while other actions are unacceptable.  Have the child think about this.  Perhaps, the child can draw a picture, act out a scenario, or see something on a good video or child TV show that will demonstrate the lesson you are in the midst of teaching.  Time out is also good.  Taking away or awarding privileges are effective techniques.

As a parent, be sure what you require of your child is age appropriate.  A foolish parent will expect a child in a high chair to eat with the manners of a cultured adult.  This child will sometimes play with her or his food.  This is okay.  Yes, I know, some parents require strict obedience and adherence to adult etiquette, even, for example, the parent, speaking in a very stern harsh tone to the child, then turning the child and high chair to the wall, rather than facing and participating with the family.    This kind of behavior, for example, needs to be avoided, as the child can get nervous about ever pleasing this parent.

Balanced Discipline 2 – Is There Such a Thing? will give 7 ideas you can implement in your home with children of various ages.

What are your thoughts?  What are your experiences?

May you have a blessed day with yourself, your children, your mate, your world!!!!

Love,

MamaHeart

Audrye

www.TheMothersManual.com

Audrye@TheMothersManual.com

1.888.757.3223 or 1.888.75 PEACE

 

LIKE MOTHER, LIKE DAUGHTER – Really? Want Love & Peace?

“I will NEVER do this to my children!!!” Did you ever say that to you while you were growing up,?  Were you convinced that you would totally refrain from doing any of the awful stuff foisted upon you by your mom?  Even if you absolutely loved and love your mother — as pretty much all of us do — what about those times when your mom’s issues got the better of her, and she used the “look,” or smacked you, or belittled you, or had that razor voice, or beat you, or locked you in a closet, or whatever it was for you?

Have you ever discovered yourself doing almost exactly to your child or children what you swore you would never repeat from your mom’s repertoire?  OMG, what about her words or attitudes popping out of your mouth, and you wonder, ‘Where did THAT come from?”

The good, the bad and the shocking truth of the effect out moms have on our lives is that unless we really work on, in and with ourselves, despite how brilliant, how aware, how loving we are, whether we prefer to or not, we almost always WILL repeat some of the patterns we experienced with our moms.  This can be fabulous, and it can be atrocious.

What to do about this?  We all know that our words, our belief systems, our internal dialog (ID) effect our lives, and can bring to fruition our deepest dreams and our most nasty nightmares.  So, we work on our thoughts, saying, “delete, delete, delete” to the disparaging internal thoughts we may have.

I have been working on myself since I’m a young girl.  Yes, I was born with a higher consciousness from the start.  This is part of being a mystic intuitive.  Nonetheless, to my utter horror, I repeated some of the worst things I experienced with my mom.  Did I apologize?  You bet!!!!  Have I done internal work, energy work, spiritual work, mental work, emotional work?  For sure.   I am ever honing that ID (internal dialog) so I can live as the best possibility of my authentuc self.  My daughter and I have a very real relationship, love each other tremendously, and both work on it, too.

So many women — and men — have come to me, wondering why they can devolve into feeling like a little unworthy kid when speaking with their respective moms.  “Why can’t I be the accomplished talented adult I am when I’m with her, or someone who reminds me of her?  “What can I do about this, so we both are living in the here and now?” (rather than the there and then)

To have peace in the world, we start with ourselves.  We are the one.  Each and ever one of us.  We start in Spirit, the in-between, then the womb.  To clear ourselves, make peace with the ID and our own energetic “implants” takes work.  It’s more than affirmations, as important affirmations are.

If we refrain from doing this, what do we have?  We have what we have now.  Who wants to continue with the world’s people behaving in the tumultuous self-sabatoging ways that can come to any and all of us?  Yes, some of us more than other, definitely.

To answer this call, I created my LIKE MOTHER, LIKE DAUGHTER – Really? teleseminar on Tuesday, Sept 24th, 7-8 pm EDT  $11  for the live experiential event.  Registrataion permits you to listen to the Teleseminar at any time afterward if you are unable to attend Tuesday evening.  There are ongoing opportunities also.

I am impulsed — even when I want to just hide — to do this.  Source has called on me, since I was a little girl, to be and do what I am here to do to create transformation, peace, consciousness upliftment, women’s empowerment-enlightenment-rights-responsibilities.

I invite you to check this out.  http://www.TheMothersManual.com/Empowered-Mom-Teleseminar-1/

We are all in this together.  What kind of world would we be living in if we were all at peace inside with our mothers?  If we can stay centered and present in the NOW when we’re with her?  Even if she is in Spirit, how would we love to be free?

We can take our steps to create this world.  It’s up to us, and this is one of the ways.

Have an absolutely blessed day!!!!!!!

Love,

MamaHeart

Audrye

www.TheMothersManual.com

1 888 757 3223, 1 888 75 PEACE

Healing 3 Types of “Monster” Moms or “Poisonous” Parents

What can a mom or dad do to earn being called a “monster” or “poisonous”?

 

Let’s look at Seven Types of “Monster” Moms or “Poisonous” Parents

 

1.  The Bully Mom or Dad

This is the parent, who, even with the best of intentions, forces her or his child to do what s/he wants exactly in that moment.  “Eat your food now!!!! Everyone is waiting for you to finish!!! You are holding up everyone being ready to leave for the movies!!!”  Any of this said with a threatening tone to a child in a high chair or to a toddler, even if Mom or Dad is on her or his seeming last nerve, can absolutely be termed a bully parent.

 

Will the child comply?

 

At some point, yes, so the parent can justify her or his behavior, with the proverbial, “See?  It worked!  Now my daughter (or son) is behaving nicely.  I was right to do what I did.”

 

A better approach is to find out why the child is resisting or refusing to do what is requested.  Also, for Mom or Dad to examine their request, determining if the request is required to be completed at that very second, if there’s another way to speak to the child, if there’s something going on within the child that needs to be addressed.  None of us operate solely on the surface.  Babies, toddlers, children operate on many levels, including when they are preverbal.

 

2.   The “Ridiculing” Mom or Dad

 

“You are being ridiculous wearing that outfit.  You look like an idiot!” says a seemingly well-meaning parent, in her or his zeal to have their offspring look good, in their eyes, and what the parent takes to the eyes of their friends, workers, neighbors, society.

 

“Everyone is able to run at this age.  Why are you so slow?  Are you just stupid?” jeers another parent to her/his child, in the parent’s effort to get his/her child up to speed, in the parent’s world overview.

This type of behavior absolutely undermines the child’s sense of self, as well as invalidates the child’s progress.  Yes, we can all feel impatient with ourselves, our children, society, anything.  This is less than no justification to mock or ridicule a child.  This can also be seen as an aspect of the bullying parent.

 

If you find yourself doing any of this — and the best of parent can slip sometimes — immediately rectify it.  Apologize to your child for your words, attitude and behavior.  Let your child know you love him/her, and that you, too, are constantly learning.  Then find a more enlightened way to express what needs to be done.  If you need help, read www.TheMothersManual.com or attend the Enlightened Mom Teleseminar series and Enlightened Mom Coaching Program.

3.  The “Impossible-to-Please” Mom or Dad

I will take this right out of my own life.  When I was a child, I earned report-card grades in the 90s in all my subjects.  My mom would see this, and, though she said, “Good work,” she then added, “Why don’t you get higher?  Is this the best you can do?”  This was said in less than an approving, loving voice.

 

This may have stimulated another kind of child, encouraging her or him to work harder.  For me, however, I felt that my mom would never be satisfied with what I did.   I needed some acknowledgment and validation.  What happened was that as I got older, I felt my mom had no concept of what I did, what it tood for me to do any of what I did, and that she had no sense of how to actually encourage.

 

Of course, this stemmed from her upbringing where she was belittled and made to feel less-than from her mom.  She never “worked on” this, and continued this behavior with her children, thinking that she was doing a great job.

 

So you know, before my mom left the Earth, she and I had more than made up, forgiven ourselves and one another for our sometimes clashing behavior.  I love her and treasure her.  That little Scorpio Dragon was a great “adversary” who taught me how to deal with challenging people.

 

Any of us can fall into these three categories.  Any of us can still be feeling the effects of these and other categories of “Monster” Mom or “Poisonous Parent.”   If you would like more tips on how to heal from what you experienced from your Mom, and to avoid perpetuating this pattern, contact me at 1 888.757.3223 or 1 888.75 PEACE.  Also, www.TheMothersManual.com.

 

To have peace on the planet, we start at home, within ourselves and our families.

 

Many Bessings & Love,

 

MamaHeart

Audrye

 

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