Moms and everyone, how many times have you/I/we said we want something, made the preparations, gotten ourselves there, done the internal and external work, then, when we’re there, what do we do? Do we maximize every opportunity? Do we allow ourselves to receive our good? Do we sabotage ourselves? Do we do less or allow less than whatever is possible?
To my absolute “horror,” despite how much work I have done and do on myself, still there can be occasions when I omit doing the obvious that could make such a difference for both other people and myself. At this point, however, I take stock, do an internal interview, to seek the cause of this behavior. There was a time I would pummel myself.
What about you? Do you check yourself out when you realixe that you either made a mistake, omitted doing something that needed doing, did something haphazardly that required more attention, or in any other way behaved in any manner that had you feeling that you had been less than you are?
Pretty much most of us have.
Here are THREE SUPER SECRET TIPS to Maximize Opportunities and Step Out of Our Own Way, and Bring In Our Good!
1. LOVE YOURSELF. Yes, even in the face of something you could have done better. Even if you are feeling embarrassed. Even if…. Stop blaming yourself! Learn what sabotaging internal dialog (ID – remember? The Internal Tyrant!) had been chattering along either boisterously or whisperingly. Hear this “junque” so we can behave better than any sabotaging behavior the ID may be pushing. Are you noticing any old family patterns, or genetic karmic patterning? Perhaps regarding relationships, arguing, money, forgetfulness, overtalking, invalidating, addictions? Congratulate yourself; you have discovered treasure. Now to enhance yourself and everyone else with it.
2. TAKE CORRECTIVE ACTION. This can be seeing the old pattern, shifting it, and forgiving yourself/ourselves. Make that phone call. Tell the truth in an honoring way to yourself and everyone else. Take an action that will get you beneficial results. Just about everything can be transformed. It starts within. Corrective action is, first and foremost, working on yourself. I am doing second chakra work on myself to shift some ancient patterns that I came in with and that were inadvertently enhanced by my background. Refuse to blame anyone else for your own stuff. Be responsible, loving yourself all the while, clean/clear yourself, and take appropriate loving, effective, efficient action.
3. SAY THANK YOU! Be grateful for this soul initiation. You are growing! This is great! Refrain from allowing a glitch on the journey to get or keep you down. You are a Being of Light! You are a Soul! You are made of Creator Stuff! Say thank you to yourself, others, God/dess for your new awareness and actions. Pause, if need be. Regroup. Realign internally, and take gentle, powerful, authentic steps in both the inner and outer world. We are all learning. Yes, absolutely, pulsate with gratitude.
Moms, everyone, we are going to sometimes find ourselves in a thicket, sometimes of our own making, sometimes as part of a larger situation. Learn!!!! Honor and love yourself and others! Be truthful, with integrity and impeccability. Take appropriate action! Be grateful for this opportunity to evolve. Enlightened beings know that in the third dimension, we are on a journey.
Many blessings to you, and may your journey be fabulous!!!
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What is this internal dialog? The little critter, the chatterbox, Monkey Mind, Terrible Tyrant, Internal Terrorist, according to my friend, healer extraordinaire, Dr. Robert Pope, the almost-nonstop mind machine that says: “Your’re too tall, too short, not smart enough, too old, too fat, too skinny, not good enough, yatatatatata. We all have it.
This is very different from Divine Guidance, the usually soft loving Inner Voice that opens doors of perception and possibility to and for you, that encourages you/me/us to evolve.
Where does the Internal Dialog head nuisance come from? Family comments, past lives, parallel existences, cultural conditioning, media, Reptilians, ancient fears, all can be contributors. Our internal dialog can originate from any and all of these causes, plus plenty more. Becasue this is in our head, we are responsible for it and how we are affected by it.
How does this play into Genetic Karmic Patterning? What in the world is that, you may be asking, your ID going nonstop: “I am so curious, I couldn’t care less, why am I reading this, I’m looking forward to a great bath, when’s the last time I made love?” can all be trumpeting within you.
Genetic Karmic Patterning, as explained to me by Source when I was writing THE MOTHER’S MANUAL, in partnership with Source, are those energetic, physical, emotional, mental and other patterns that can get passed down from one generation to another, both intentionally and unintentionally. Genetic Karmic Patterning can be in the DNA as well as behavioral. Some families seem to have affinities with addictions, anger, music, food, sorrow, success, failure, wealth, poverty, anything.
With me, the issues once were food, fear and finances.
Frequently, a soul before birth can choose a family for its incarnation both for the wonderful experience that soul will enjoy on the Earth, as well as for the initiatory lessons the soul will encounter in and with that family. These challenges — as well as the contributions of the soul — are some of why the soul chose to be born. The Earth, after all, among its various purposes and functions, is a School for Souls. Yes, you/I/we definitely selected our families so we can evolve.
This is part of why your children selected you!
Once we learn the lessons, how do we transform this Genetic Karmic Patterning, so we’re free of it rather than being bound and imprisoned? What about the droning ID? Why would be benefit from this? Why do our families and life on Earth benefit?
We benefit becasue we become free, able to actually know who and what we are, which is so much beyond the often ego-boung identities running around the Earth now. Look at the global stage, and you can see egos running wild. Look at the U.S. government right now. Beings attached to ego, fear, control, domination, manipulation, racism, sexism. These are all Ego Games often fueled by rampant internal dialog (ID) of a malicious sort, pushed further by possible negative Genetic Karmic Patterning.
We all have free will, and it is up to each and every one of us to use it, and consciously evolve ourselves!
When we free ourselves from the ID, or transform our relationship with it, or create a peaceful environment with the ID, and go beyond Generic Karmic Patterning, new talents and abilities spring up within us. Inventiveness soars. We live in the moment, while also taking stpes to create a valuable future.
How many people — including yourself — do you know who live passionate, authentic lives? How many people actually have joy in being alive? Even in the midst of chaos? How many actually live their essential truth?
We are at a time, a nexus, of shift and change, within ourselves and in the external world. We all get to choose our reality and can affect our energy vibrataion. If we refrain from clearing limiting internal dialog, or allow hurtful family Genetic Karmic Pattrerning to run our lives, we make ourselves less.
I urge you, with love and star shine, to gently look within yourself to see where you can grok a more enlightened, joyous, beneficial way of living, whether something totally new to you or something you have been involved with quite a while. Write this down. Now! Say it to yourself. Make an affirmation of it, even if you doubt you can achieve it.
Here are some examples:
“I allow myself to live a life of passion, peace, prosperity. People love to hear what I have to say. I speak truth with love. I am a peace and prosperity magnet.”
This is a taste, a tidbit, of the internal dialog and Genertic Karmic Patterning. If you choose to learn more, enhance your energy and possibility, please contact me.
Now, get quiet. Take this time for YOU!!!! Breathe. Breathe into your heart. Hold. Gently exhale. Breathe Golden White Sparkling Light into your heart. Hold. Gently release. What is your heart feeling? What is the loving Guidance Voice, very different from the internal dialog, saying? Who are you when you listen to the Guidance and follow it? What can you bring to your family and the world?
Love and Blessings,
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Everyone has her/his culture, upbringing, “genetic karmic” conditioning. Some of these ideas may be fabulous, while others are repressive, confining, stultifying.
Because Source/the Presence was with me as I/we brought forth THE MOTHER’S MANUAL, A SPIRITUAL AND PRACTICAL GUIDE TO CHILD REARING AND MOTHERHOOD, (www.TheMothersManual.com ), I’m quoting directly from the book on Discipline.
“Avoid hitting your child. Hitting and loving are different. The
phrase ‘this hurts me more than it hurts you’ from a parent’s mouth
when the parent is administering a spanking, beating or whooping
rings false to every child who has ever heard it. Hitting teaches that
might makes right. Smacking teaches bullying. Saying ‘because I
say so, that’s why,/ though a common-enough phrase that can slip
past many mothers’ mouths, is also an ineffective tool for teaching
and discipline. If you yourself do not know why you are saying it
or having your child do it, learn, so you can explain it to your child
in a sensible understandable manner. Children are actually smart
and often understand way more than adults give the child credit for.
“Reserve commands for emergencies.
“When you develop trust with your child, this little person, especially
when young, often desires to do what you say. Children like
to please. They like to fit into a loving situation. This adaptability
is built into them, as surely as the innate ability to crawl, walk and
evolve. Definitely, there are times when your child must do as you say
in that exact moment without the child understanding why. It may
be a matter of saving her life. You can use special language that you
set up in advance with your child so she knows when and if these
times occur. Be sure to respect this and use it sparingly and judiciously.
“These are the times when commands can be used wisely.
“If you were brought up with corporeal punishment, being hit,
and you think hitting is the only way or the most effective way to
discipline or teach respect to your child, please think again. Smacking,
hitting and/or beating are a very limited repertoire of choices,
often rendering the mother ineffective in instilling positive methods
of discipline in her child. Citing alleged Biblical ‘spare the rod and
spoil the child’ is a way to justify and rationalize violence to one’s
“Look into alternatives.
“1. Learn when you are reaching your
limit of patience.
“2. Have several people as alternate child caregivers
for just such times.
“3. Have quiet activities your child can enjoy
and benefit from.
“4. Find classes for wee ones, so you have pauses in
“5. Take classes yourself in positive methods of peaceful
“6. Develop patience, ingenuity, clarity, coping skills, creativity
” 7. Meditate.
” 8. Develop your own internal discipline
with love, and your child will also energetically emulate you.”
There is also the Reward method. Set up a chart with chores and the like, and when the child performs them, give the child a star. When the child refuses to do his agreed-upon responsibilities, the child can get a different mark. Privileges can be awarded or taken away based on this chart.
Never ever humiliate your child, whether alone or in the midst of people. Always respect yourself and your child as Beings of Light. Take your child away from a group, and speak to her about inappropriate behavior. When tihis manner of dealing with your child is extablished early on, your child will come to expect it. This doesn’t mean she will like it, just that she will refrain from balking. The alternative would be to have that private conversation in the midst of people, which would be contrary to his liking.
Work out signals, raising eyebrows, a “look,” a hand movement so your child knows when she is moving into the inappropriate zone. As mom, catch stuff in the early stages, rather than waiting for a blow-up. The brain gets into a loop, so by the time behavior gets into the hysterical screaming fit phase, often the child is unable to stop, nor, sometimes, can the adult.
Give childrfen alternate modes of behavior. Teach them how to recognize when they, themselves, are feeling upset, worried, angry, sad, resentful, and the like, so the child can self-correct rather than go into blow-up mode without understanding what’s going on inside them. If you, Mom, are out of touch with your own feelings, this is the perfect time for you to learn.
We are at a nexus in human consciousness upliftment. Despite some of the absolute insanity we see occuring in our lives, our families, politics, the world, we are more enlightened than that. We are the arbiters of our lives, with our connection to Source/the Presence within ourselves and everywhere. Take this opportunity to evolve yourself. It’s the greatest game in town.
What are you ideas? Techniques? How do you create peaceful conflict resolution in yourself? Your family? The world?
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“I will NEVER do this to my children!!!” Did you ever say that to you while you were growing up,? Were you convinced that you would totally refrain from doing any of the awful stuff foisted upon you by your mom? Even if you absolutely loved and love your mother — as pretty much all of us do — what about those times when your mom’s issues got the better of her, and she used the “look,” or smacked you, or belittled you, or had that razor voice, or beat you, or locked you in a closet, or whatever it was for you?
Have you ever discovered yourself doing almost exactly to your child or children what you swore you would never repeat from your mom’s repertoire? OMG, what about her words or attitudes popping out of your mouth, and you wonder, ‘Where did THAT come from?”
The good, the bad and the shocking truth of the effect out moms have on our lives is that unless we really work on, in and with ourselves, despite how brilliant, how aware, how loving we are, whether we prefer to or not, we almost always WILL repeat some of the patterns we experienced with our moms. This can be fabulous, and it can be atrocious.
What to do about this? We all know that our words, our belief systems, our internal dialog (ID) effect our lives, and can bring to fruition our deepest dreams and our most nasty nightmares. So, we work on our thoughts, saying, “delete, delete, delete” to the disparaging internal thoughts we may have.
I have been working on myself since I’m a young girl. Yes, I was born with a higher consciousness from the start. This is part of being a mystic intuitive. Nonetheless, to my utter horror, I repeated some of the worst things I experienced with my mom. Did I apologize? You bet!!!! Have I done internal work, energy work, spiritual work, mental work, emotional work? For sure. I am ever honing that ID (internal dialog) so I can live as the best possibility of my authentuc self. My daughter and I have a very real relationship, love each other tremendously, and both work on it, too.
So many women — and men — have come to me, wondering why they can devolve into feeling like a little unworthy kid when speaking with their respective moms. “Why can’t I be the accomplished talented adult I am when I’m with her, or someone who reminds me of her? “What can I do about this, so we both are living in the here and now?” (rather than the there and then)
To have peace in the world, we start with ourselves. We are the one. Each and ever one of us. We start in Spirit, the in-between, then the womb. To clear ourselves, make peace with the ID and our own energetic “implants” takes work. It’s more than affirmations, as important affirmations are.
If we refrain from doing this, what do we have? We have what we have now. Who wants to continue with the world’s people behaving in the tumultuous self-sabatoging ways that can come to any and all of us? Yes, some of us more than other, definitely.
To answer this call, I created my LIKE MOTHER, LIKE DAUGHTER – Really? teleseminar on Tuesday, Sept 24th, 7-8 pm EDT $11 for the live experiential event. Registrataion permits you to listen to the Teleseminar at any time afterward if you are unable to attend Tuesday evening. There are ongoing opportunities also.
I am impulsed — even when I want to just hide — to do this. Source has called on me, since I was a little girl, to be and do what I am here to do to create transformation, peace, consciousness upliftment, women’s empowerment-enlightenment-rights-responsibilities.
I invite you to check this out. http://www.TheMothersManual.com/Empowered-Mom-Teleseminar-1/
We are all in this together. What kind of world would we be living in if we were all at peace inside with our mothers? If we can stay centered and present in the NOW when we’re with her? Even if she is in Spirit, how would we love to be free?
We can take our steps to create this world. It’s up to us, and this is one of the ways.
Have an absolutely blessed day!!!!!!!
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